Wednesday, 30 April 2014

Goals - Wheel of Life


Goals - Wheel of Life

My experience

A MGHOW (Man Going His Own Way) by definition is a statement of self-ownership and a declaration that you alone have the right to decide what your goals in life will be, as opposed to having your goals dictated by others. It's a great declaration, but don't spend too much time basking in it... there is work to do! 


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The Wheel of Life is a common tool used by 'life' coaches everywhere.  I was first exposed to it in the book "Success for Dummies" by Zig Ziglar.  It was over 10 years ago, and I lost sight of it until recently I came across it again at the following link:
http://www.worklifedesign.com.au/is-this-the-ultimate-life-coaching-tool-all-hail-the-wheel-of-life/

Not quite the same as Zig's, but I liked how this one fleshed out some key points for each area of life.  I don't know about you, but the first thing that comes to mind when I hear "Personal Growth" is weight gain, so I changed that category to "Personal Development".  Career / Work I find a bit depressing to be honest. To me, "career" is one of these corporate type terms that tries to paint a job as being on par with something more important, like family, or... LIFE. Also, lets face it, most of us do not have a career, but 'just a job'.  According to Forbes, 70% of employees HATE their job!  A true career, in my view, is a job that you REALLY, REALLY, LOVE, has a definite career path, garners respect, and makes your richer over time as your expertise grows. 

MGTOW LEVEL 4's VIEW


For those that are unaware of Level 4 MGTOW:

Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living... - See more at: http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html#sthash.ixgq8Xdu.dpuf
Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living...

With that in mind I changed "Career / Work" to "Work & Entrepreneurship".  I've always wanted to be an entrepreneur, but during 11 years of marriage this was very limited and stifled.  The years following divorce I spent way too much time trying to catch women, and way, way, too many hours on online dating sites that I could of been using in something more productive!  After embracing MGTOW, you could say I'm going from "Enter-No-Pussy" (Level 3 MGTOW) to Entrepreneur (Level 4 in that I only need to produce enough for an acceptable standard of living), and as a means to leave "Work" as defined as paid employment (i.e.leaving 'just a job').

My MGTOW Wheel of Life

Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living... - See more at: http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html#sthash.ixgq8Xdu.dpuf

MGTOW wheel of life
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So as a Level 3 MGTOW, ( defined as a man who rejects all form of traditional romantic relationships, including dating, one-night stands, etc. Any contact with opposite sex is kept strictly professional.), I re-worked the wheel to better fit and reflect MGTOW and my life.  Yes, I know I spelled Entrepreneurship incorrectly, but I am a MSHOW (man spelling his own way).  I later decided to split up work and entrepreneurship into their own areas.  Relationships/Romance are definitely out for a myriad of reasons that could be a separate blog post in itself....  oh wait, it is!   See my first blog post at http://mgtow1.blogspot.ca/2014/03/inaugural-post.html  or simply click "The Journey Begins" button at the top menu bar.


Evaluate your life!

Once you have your own 'wheel', you can rank how well you think you are doing in each area of life, a 1 being 'totally dissatisfied, a 5 being just a pass, while a 10 would be that you feel totally satisfied.

The section labelled Entrepreneur used to have "Romance", so feel free to change it back (if you still chase women), or change it to something that has meaning to you.  You could even get rid of it altogether as there are no rules that you need 8 pie slices.  Just google "wheel of life" and you will see many examples with different categories like purpose, social life, lifestyle, travel, and so on.

My self evaluation

Physical Environment - 7 - fairly comfortable renting a quiet 1 bedroom apartment which is less than 5 minutes away from work. Not fond of ever owning a house again but not ruling it out either. Seriously need to get rid of some clutter.

Work - 4 - friendly small company but a sweatshop.  Company actively trying to be sold which will mean my shares will be worth something, but job security after that is quite unlikely. Limbo.

Finances - 7 - Doing very well saving up money but dragged my heels on how to invest it.  I now have a plan but stocks are overpriced at this time.

Health - 5 - My diet needs a reboot. I stay up too late. I don't exercise. I drink too much coffee, because I stayed up late the night before.

Family and Friends - 6 - kind of indifferent. I have a small circle of friends, but I am okay with that.

Entrepreneur - 3 - A long way from working for myself.

Personal Growth - 4 - need to cut down my internet use and get back to reading more. Need to manage my time much better.

Fun and Recreation - 7 - sometimes I get carried away with a hobby at the expense of relaxation.  I still haven't seen the movie No Country for Old Men!

MGTOW wheel of life - Evaluation
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So, how is your wheel?  Lopsided?  Balanced and round, but small?

My motivation

I currently have 19 goals which I try to work on equally.  I found that some goals overlapped with each other, and some had become stale and then ignored.  Some were made on a whim as soon as one goal was reached, with no looking at the big picture (or the big wheel). I only have one goal in Health, but 7 goals under Finances.  I simply won't reach those 7 goals if I am dead (or worse).  Think of your wheel's pie slices as each containing goals that will improve your score in that life category.  You can see how approaching your goals from this top-down approach can save you quite a bit of time, and steer you away from some goals that would have little impact or just become "busy work".

I do have each goal written down which is very important, otherwise they just become dreams that you think about from time to time. Before you know it, YEARS have passed and you are still dreaming.  Some goals are a bit too general like "Escape the rat race."  Upon inspection, one of my goals does not even fit on my wheel of life, and is now obsolete thanks to MGTOW.  Speaking of MGTOW, this exercise and this blog post, took a lot of time. Would I be able to do this if I was married?  I have my doubts! Not to mention the segments of my wheel which would not mesh well with my ex-wife's wheel (if she bothered to even go through this exercise).

The Wheel of Life exercise is the perfect starting point for goal-setting. My next steps are to take my wheel and create a mind-map for each area of life (segment).  That should make it clearer as to what goals are needed and/or what actions can be assigned to goals I might already have.

Books I've read that helped

Success For Dummies
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Rich
Think and Grow Rich


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