Welcome to my inaugural blog post! This blog will document my journey into MGTOW. For those not familiar with MGTOW, it is an acronym for Men Going Their Own Way. If you have never heard of this movement, here are some of the main points:
MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way is a label that has been given to naturally occurring phenomena that takes place consciously or unconsciously among men.
MGTOW is the statement of self-ownership and saying that only you have the right to decide what your goals in life should be.
It is saying that, as a man I will not surrender my will to the social expectations of women and society, because both have become hostile against masculinity.
MGTOWs often argue that:
-there is no need to live as a worker drone for someone else because of your gender;
-the slave days of traditional gender roles are over;
-everyone deserves to live for themselves;
-it is not right to live for others or ask others to live for you;
-live and let live.
MGTOW seems to piss off feminists, so all I gotta say is .... BONUS!!
MGTOW is not about WHAT YOU DO, it is about WHY YOU DO IT. If you are doing something because this is your own real will, then you are going your own way. If you are doing the same thing because of social expectations, then you are going the way of others.
Level 1: Situational awareness
This level includes men who are aware of the realities that face them in society, and yet deem the risks acceptable to have a go at playing the game...
Level 2: Rejection of long-term relationships
Man who rejects all form of long-term traditional romantic relationships, including but not limited to marriage, cohabitation of any sort which might be classified as common-law marriage, picking up for a single mother's children, or any action which might be used in court to turn him into a legal servant...
Level 3: Rejection of short-term relationships
Man who rejects all form of traditional romantic relationships, including dating, one-night stands, etc. Any contact with opposite sex is kept strictly professional...
Level 4: Minimalism
Men who have decided that it is not in their best interest to waste life by working at jobs they don’t like so they could buy things they don’t need. He will not produce more than is necessary for his own individual survival and acceptable standard of living...
How did I get here?
Ten years ago I got divorced. Our sons were both both under age 10 and we kept things civil throughout the process. Our lawyers even said that we were the calmest/drama-free split they had seen. The divorce wasn't my idea, but after 11 years of marriage I was done working at keeping it together; my wife was a bit of a quitter whenever times got tough, and it didn't take much for arguments to escalate to her playing the divorce card. I was exhausted of walking on eggshells. When she announced her decision, it was literally like a weight had lifted from my shoulders.
In the 10 years since moving out and getting divorced, I have live on my own. I have been online dating with limited success. I have been 'with' women if you catch my drift, but finding one has always been a long drawn out process of many rejections (both real and 'virtual') in between relationships. They say when you are a guy who is online dating, that you are doing well if you get a response to 5% of your messages. That means 95% of your messages are never responded to. On some sites, you could see that some messages were even shown to have a status of "unread-deleted". In my case I'd say I might of hovered around the 3% response rate. I'll probably have more posts about online dating in the future.
As the years went by, I went from being okay with potentially meeting a lady that would be a real friend, have a real sex drive, and be okay with no more kids, and maybe even living together... to NOT. As single friends and I traded notes on our dating experiences I came to the realization that I was always putting women on a pedestal, and quite a few dating profiles demanded it. I was stupidly approaching it from "What can I do to make HER happy". I started asking myself, how far would I go? Would I move in with her just to make her happy? Would I cave in and get married, to make her happy? Should I change my profile to say that I LOVE travel, even though I hate it? Would I start dating women with kids? As time went on, I realized more and more that I was giving up too much just for a roll in the hay.
Whether you live together or get married, it is essentially the same legally. I heard too many horror stories both firsthand and online of women that would lose their job, stop working, or develop some illness, and before you know it you are supporting someone financially. My sons are teenagers, so I am still paying child support as I write this. As I researched online, I came across MGTOW and found myself fully agreeing with their views on marriage, and relationships for that matter. Their question of "What's in it for men when it comes to marriage?" really resonated with me. The fact that I could not give an answer within an hour, REALLY resonated.
It's been over 4 years since my last relationship. At first it was involuntary celibacy, but now it is by choice. I guess I have been "Level 3 MGTOW" for years without knowing it. In this blog I will share my journey towards "Level 4" MGTOW" (Minimalism).
I will also share material related to my disdain of political correctness and feminism. I will leave commenting on my blog open to all, and welcome any debating. I may also create some videos and animations to help the cause.
Essential. In this politically correct world, expressing your views can get you into trouble when it comes to making a living. What may be the bitter truth to one person, can easily be labelled as misogyny by another. Also I don't want my sons' privacy invaded, nor suffer any potential discrimination on my account. People tend to jump to conclusions and hold the view of guilt by association too easily these days. I'm not sure exactly where the baby boomers went wrong, but they really have raised a generation of hyper-sensitive pussies. As for political correctness, when you peel back the layers it is simply about thought control. Control the language and you control the thoughts.
I will also offer up some real-life examples, but I will change the names to keep the privacy of others private.
I've already come up with an motto for my blog!
They say the biggest purchase of your life will be a house. They're wrong, it's a wedding ring.